A sweet older friend of mine recently became a widow. She was talking to me the other day and asking me about married life. We chatted about the simple but special moments of being at home together and cooking dinner for him. She shared that of the many things she misses about having her husband around it was cooking dinner for him that she missed the most. She said now that he is gone cooking is just not the same and that she does not enjoy it any longer.
My heart broke as she shared these tender words while fighting back tears. Yet I could not help but learn from this wise woman’s experience. Enjoy your husband. Enjoy the day to day life you have. It is not about the big things but rather the daily tasks which we often take for granted that become so precious and missed when gone.
This is a great post! I am so sorry for your friends loss. My mother is the same way, she hates to cook now and has barely done so in the last 5 years since my father passed. I will go home and embrace my husband and be more appreciative of him.
ReplyDeleteThanks for this post! Cooking for my husband is one of my favorite things to do. Thanks for reminding us to appreciate the small things.
ReplyDeleteAfter the past 2 days, I certainly agree that I appreciated all the little things the hubs does for me/us.
ReplyDeleteI love married life.
What did you make for dinner? It looks yum-licious!
ReplyDeleteAmen! My mom has been widowed TWICE (!!) and she's under 60. :( She always makes sure I get a kick of reality if I start complaining about T.
ReplyDeleteA wise woman with very good advice for you. Glad you shared it.
ReplyDeleteMy grandmother said the same thing. And I noticed she was getting thinner and thinner... cuz it was just too much work to cook for one person.
ReplyDeleteSo, one year before Christmas I made her a "mini" meal in a Glad freezeware dish every time we had a big meal. Spaghetti, taco meat, soup, chili, chicken dishes.....I'd make extra for her and freeze it. I'd write on the top of each container what was inside with a black magic marker and put "I love you" or "xoxo"... etc.
I gave her a huge cooler full of 12 meals at Christmas and she cried and cried. Every 6 months or so after that I gave her more until she passed away also. She loved it.
You are right. The daily tasks like cooking dinner for him and doing his laundry often become monotonous and chore-like .... we need to remember that these are the times we would miss if we didn't have our husbands. Thanks for this.
ReplyDeleteSo true! Even when my husband is just gone for a few days on a business trip, it is all the little things that I miss.
ReplyDeleteWhat a sweet post! I will never take my sweet husband or the day-to-day things for granted! Life is wayyy too short!
ReplyDeleteSo, So very true!
ReplyDeleteEnjoy the days you don't speak or the day that you have tiff. It's a day that you have each other.